As Christmas approaches, thoughts of the excess drinking you’re likely to indulge in has probably crossed your mind more than once. You may even be looking forward to it.
The chance to relax and let your hair down, spend time with loved ones, eat lovely food, receive and give lovely presents and generally have a splendid time is what it’s all about, isn’t it?
But maybe you’ll be drinking so that you can cope with those annoying relatives that you have no choice but to cook for and run around after on Christmas Day? Maybe you just want to join in ‘the fun’ with everyone else? Maybe you’re exhausted and are really ready for some oblivion and sticking your head under the duvet for as long as you can get away with?
One way or another, Christmas will come and go and on January 1st 2019 you might spend some time thinking about the role alcohol plays in your life and the choices before you for 2019.
Dry January has become a popular obstacle course that many tackle as an antidote to the excesses of Christmas. There isn’t a huge amount of convincing evidence that it is a good way of reducing your intake in the long term but there is some encouraging anecdotal evidence that taking a break offers improved sleep, reduced anxiety, improved skin condition and some improvement in liver stiffness.
Of course, one of the issues with Dry January is that many people are basically doing a countdown to the day they can drink again. There have been some reports of Dry Januaryers diving head first into a vat of booze on February 1st and ending up drinking more than they were before they started.
If you are currently drinking more than 20 units a day, it’s imperative that you speak to your doctor about getting the support you will need to get through the detox. Detox alone when you have been drinking at this level can be fatal.
Taking a break from alcohol is always a good idea if you think you’ve been drinking too much. It will give you a chance to see what life could be like without the unending cycle of hangovers, bad days, unproductive days, bad tempered outbursts and a heap of anxiety.
But what next? Go back to drinking and all the negatives that go with it? What would be the point of that?
If you are interested in taking a break from alcohol, it’s important to recognise that one month isn’t long enough to really feel the benefits of sobriety. So many Sobersistas report that ‘stuff keeps coming up’ the more time they spend sober.
The Mechanical Phase
The first 6 to 8 weeks is what I call the ‘mechanical phase’ where you learn new habits, understand how to react appropriately to your triggers, how to rearrange your daily life so that alcohol isn’t a natural part of it anymore and spend a lot of time thinking about not drinking.
The Joy and Excitement Phase
When Sobersistas reach this phase there is often a burst of productivity and happiness. All of those household jobs you’ve been putting off for years get done with ease, you can see how all of your close relationships are improving and your sleep and energy levels improve so much you almost feel like a different person. You start loving live and just enjoying your days without alcohol. This phase generally happens around 8 -16 weeks.
The What Next Phase
I know now that is is the most dangerous phase. This tends to happen around the 4 – 6 month mark. If you don’t take a look at your life and if you don’t start making medium and long term goals you will start asking yourself ‘is this it?’, ‘is life always going to be this boring?’, ‘what am I going to do now?’. Without deciding what you are going to do with all of the time and money you have gifted back to yourself, the likelihood is that you will go back to drinking. You will probably have significantly changed your social life and friends and life will seem just a little dull and lifeless. Without setting some positive, life affirming goals The What Next Phase will easily turn into your next bout of boozing.
Of course, I am talking in generalities and things don’t work out this way for everyone, but I know it’s pretty common.
It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way
With the right kind of support you can break this 3 phase cycle and set yourself onto a path entirely of your own choosing. By working through these phases with the right kind of support.
Sobersistas Membership Group
My membership group which launches on 1st January 2019 is designed to support you, and not just for Dry January. I have created workbooks and material to show you how you can navigate these phases so that you can create a peaceful, productive and happy life. I will be delivering a pack of materials each month to support you so that you can confidently take back control of your life. In order to ensure I can fully support each woman in the group I am initially limiting the numbers to 150 so if you are interested in getting 5 star support for only £10 a month CLICK HERE TO READ MORE.
FREEDOM – 90 Day Intensive One to One Programme
If you know – really know – that you are ready to change your life and give up alcohol for good, I have created a one to one programme that you can complete in 90 days or less. Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
Don’t Do Dry January
Doing Dry January and bingeing at the end of it can only do you more harm than good. If you know you are drinking too much and know it’s time to give it up so that you can experience the true joy of sobriety, then join us in Sobersistas Closed Group and come and get the support you need to change your life for the better – for good!
With love, Jules xxx
P.S. If you are concerned about how you are going to get through Christmas click here to read my latest article which is full of ideas on how to have a magical time.
❤️ I mentor women who know it’s time to give up drinking, who feel unproductive and can’t imagine what life would be like without alcohol.
❤️ I guide them to understand why they drink, and confidently take back control, so that they can live life on their own terms.
❤️ I help them to create peaceful, happy lives in a way that is love, compassionate and caring.